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I figure I can write whatever I want without having to worry that someone will write a nasty comment about how terrible I am.  Good.  I need a safe venting place.

I hate Obama.  I hate him.  I never trusted him.  He said he’d help us with the national budget and what does he do?  Goes and lifts a ban that kept money in the U.S. and helped decrease the number of abortions.  I cannot believe he is allowing money to go to other countries to pay for abortions!!!!  How wrong is this on how many levels??  What a hypocritical idiot.

I know he’s pro-abortion, so that part wasn’t hypocritical, but giving money to other countries for it?  When we are in a huge mess ourselves with our economy, the national debt, and our own country’s morals failing. What is this supposed to do?  Oh, help other countries control their population.  Oh, because BIRTH CONTROL (as in CONTRACEPTIVES and ABSTINANCE for teenagers) isn’t an option?  Is it actually easier to provide them with money for abortions instead of condoms and pamphlets in their native tounge?  I’d be willing to go there as an ambassador (given a translator) and teach the people about how not to have babies if they don’t want to get pregnant.   Idiots.

And the thing that gets me even more is the stupid article I read about his doing this incredibly stupid thing used the phrase “family planning” at least a dozen times.  Excuse me, but an abortion isn’t family planning.  Abortions mean someone failed to plan.  Period.  Leaving morals out of it (if that’s even possible) a woman makes a choice to do something promiscuous that gets her pregnant.  Now, given that she isnt’a simpleton, she knows how sex works and how babies are made.  She knows babies are the large side effect of having sex.  Now, if the baby is not “wanted” and yet a baby is what is made then there are other options.  A woman shouldn’t be able to just kill the baby because she’s a selfish, lazy, inconsiderate slut.  Now, let’s say the woman is married and still doesn’t want the baby.  Then she’s a selfish, lazy, inconsiderate jerk.

And President Obama is too.

Family Planning should be parents planning how and when to have their family, how many children to have and when to have them.  How to get pregnant and how to make sure no children are conceived before the parents are ready for them.  Family Planning doesn’t mean how not to take responsibility for your actions and pretend every thing is okay.  That is called irresponsible and immoral.

I came across this blog months ago when someone else (I think maybe Navel Gazing?) put up a link to it on her blog. I asked for permission to post the whole thing on my blog, but was denied since her blog is copyrighted. I think this post is something that every mom who has ever felt frustrated with her children should read. And isn’t that all of us? We all have our moments of craziness whene we are rushed and frazzled and whene we feel like one more thing is going to just push us over the edge. Then we reach that one more thing and what do we do? Go read this and then come back. I’ll wait.

AntiqueMommy
click the link or copy paste this:
http://antiquemommy.com/2008/09/17/in-motherhood-forgiveness-trumps-failure/

Ok, now that you’ve read it and presumably gotten some toilet paper from the bathroom to blow your nose (I never have Kleenex, just good ol’ T.P.) we can go on.

I have thought about this story many times since I first read it a few months ago. While my kids have never said what her little boy stated so eloquently, I know when I get upset at my kids for whatever my personal “ball of tape” is, be it my crafts, sewing, books, fish food, toothpaste, or any of the 100 things I’ve repeatedly asked my kids to stay away from, or when I get mad at them for any other reason, I know that they are thinking and feeling the same way as this little boy.

My New Year’s Resolutions this year mostly involve improving my relationship with my children. I’ve promised myself to play more, be more gentle and understanding, less quick to upset or anger, and no more yelling unless someone is in danger. I haven’t done that great so far, but really, I’ve spent most of the New Year in a van or hotel room with them, unable to escape for even a few moments. Now that we are home and aren’t feeling like we’re duct taped to each other anymore it should be a little easier. I’ve also resolved to go to bed sooner (which I recently discovered means I need to look at a clock more often at night, otherwise it gets to be midnight and I think it’s still 10:30 PM), and write an hour a day (my blog doesn’t count). To help me with these goals I’ve enlisted my husband who, so far, seems happy to help.

I really don’t want to be the mom I am right now. I want to be a better mom. The best mom I can be. I want to have more patience; I want to have a better understanding of what is important and what isn’t; I want to let my kids know that I value them above my “tape.”