Nov 07 2008
Deciphering the Clues
Ok. I will need some help with this one. Girls, ladies, women-why is it that we expect others (especially boys, guys, men) to just instinctively know what we want, think, feel? We know they aren’t going to get it, so why do we not spell it out for them (in the nicest way possible, of course)?
Guys. Are you trying? Or do you just figure you’re never going to understand without us telling you exactly what we think and so why bother? Help me out here.
Women work hard. And nothing against working moms, because I know y’all bust your butts, too, but dang us SAHMs are tired at the end of the day! At least y’all working moms get to talk to other adults and have conversations that don’t center around peanutbutter or Dora the Explorer. Now don’t get me wrong. I love being a SAHM and I wouldn’t trade it, but sometimes I dream of what I could possibly get accomplished if I could pawn my kids off for a few days. Since that isn’t an option, I have to rely on my husband. (I love you!) My problem is, I don’t always tell him what I need. Like a full and complete day off. This isn’t likely to happen since Emma is still nursing, but it would be nice. Hey wonderful spouse, since you’re reading this, now you know! I need a full and complete day off! Do you think you could take the kids tomorrow? I don’t know where you’ll take them, but you could take them somewhere and I’ll get all my projects worked on! Yay! What do you say!?
See ladies! See how easy that is? All you have to do is start a blog, know that your husband reads it and then post what it is that you need!
Ok, for reals now. Not that that wasn’t real, because it totally was. But posting a blog entry won’t always be convenient for all of us. As women we need to change the way we think of ourselves. We need to be more open and acknowledge what we need or would like and we need to do it, get this–vocally. Like actually saying it out loud where the man in our lives can hear it. I’m not saying I’m great at this, he knows I’m not and would never profess to be, but I am working on it.
Now, I want comments! Why is it so hard to speak up? Why do we just expect mind reading? And what can we do to encourage ourselves to speak out loud?
That’s partly what my “Wishful Wednesday” is about, but my husband doesn’t read the blog.
I do that all the time to K. I sit there fuming because I am feeding Ginny, dressing Jacob and making breakfast all at the same time and he is in the back room, probably reading ESPN.com.
It isn’t that my husband is lazy, because all I would need to do is call out “Hey, I need some help over here!” and he would come to my rescue… But I have such a hard time admitting that I can’t do it all and somewhere there is still the belief that if he wanted to he would just jump in and help (without my asking).
But I live with a husband, not a sister, and although there are many benefits to this arrangement, guys don’t think like we do and often need verbal promptings. I think they are just programmed differently.