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I believe “marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God . . .”  God intends us to work together as husband and wife to raise His children in righteousness.

There are many outside forces in the world today that would pick at, unravel, invade, and destroy our happy marriages.  Pornography, lust, seemingly harmless flirting, worldly “needs” which create financial burdens, selfishness . . . the list could go on and on.  In today’s world, Satan is feverishly trying to dissuade us from understanding how important our family relationships, specifically our marital relationships, are.  Kindergartners are learning about accepting “diversity” (gay marriage) without parental consent or even their knowledge in some cases;  we are told by the world that if we disagree with gay marriage, gay rights, and pornography (we are told it is art instead of smut)then we are close-minded.  We are told to “find ourselves” and to do so without thought for anyone else.

Satan knows if he can destroy a husband and wife, then he can destroy their family.

What can we do to make our marriage, and there by our entire family, stronger and happier?  How can we make them Satan-proof?

Acknowledge that we aren’t perfect and that our spouses aren’t perfect.  Arguments will come, but the key is how you resolve them and the lesson you learn from them.  Each time we should learn to control ourselves a little bit better.  Learn to listen a little more.  Learn to understand and see from their perspectives.  Learn to be quiet.  Learn how to speak with a soft voice with gentle, instead of harsh and accusing, tones.

I’ve heard of a hundred different experiences where the husband and wife had a disagreement, big or little, major or minor.  Most of these experiences where the couple make up the quickest and where they harbor no hard feelings are ones where they serve each other.  When you are angry or frustrated with your spouse, the best action you can take is to engage yourself in service for your spouse.  When we serve we show our love for that person and remember that love.  Our hearts soften, our minds ease, and we are able to speak with soft voices and listen again.

Work together.  Couples who have common goals and interests find great enjoyment in engaging in those activities together.  If one spouse enjoys a particular hobby and the other doesn’t, maybe try a switch.  Spend time together with each others’ hobbies and learn to appreciate the passion and talent the other has.  Find a cause or goal you’re both passionate about (now is the perfect time for some causes as we are in the political circus) and start working on it.  Write letters to your congressman together, start a movement!  Make people aware!

What are some things you do to improve your marriage?

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