Oct 13 2008
Creating a Loving Home
Ever find yourself upset with your spouse? When any two people live in the same house, disagreements are going to happen. Many times these disagreements or misunderstandings can simply be discussed and a solution or reconciliation reached. Sometimes those disagreements turn into larger problems. Usually occurs when we are unwilling to see our spouse’s point of view, refuse to accept that we may be wrong, or when we feel we have been wronged and are too stubborn to forgive right away. This week my topic is going to be creating a more loving home.
I would like to include in my blog this week your personal ideas. What do you do when there’s a serious disagreement in your home? How do you bring peace back into your home? Or, what do you do which you know you shouldn’t and creates further problems?
Tomorrow I will be back with your comments and with ideas on what we can do to help our families and homes be filled with a more positive and loving atmosphere.
MY husband has a minor in communications. Specifically in inter-personal and family relations. When we were dating, one thing he told me that he had learned was that one of the biggest indicators of a couple’s potential success was their fighting styles, and how they fought together. If one was passive and needed to retreat to think things over, while the other partner was aggressive, confrontational, and volatile, that could be a bad combination. However, if both partners had the same style (regardless of what style it was) research indicated that they would have a greater chance of success. Also, if they had different styles, but discussed them and figured out how to work with them together, that would increase their chances of success. My husband and I usually have to walk away from each other for a little while, and then go on with everyday life while the dust settles and we think about things. We’ll come back to an issue a few days later to resolve, once emotions aren’t running so high. (This is for big things, which we rarely fight about anyway). He wins all the big arguments, and I win all the petty silly things.
About the above quote, it makes me think of this one:
“Never judge a man until you’ve walked a mile in his shoes, because by then you’ll be a mile away, and you’ll have his shoes.”
Oops…I didn’t mean to emphasize or capitalize my first word there.